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Quick Tips

  • Be authentic
  • Respond within 24h
  • Verify before meeting

Sending the Perfect First Message

Your first message sets the tone for the entire conversation. Learn how to craft messages that get responses and start meaningful connections.

Step by Step Guide

  1. 1Read their profile thoroughly before messaging
  2. 2Find something specific to comment on or ask about
  3. 3Keep your message concise but engaging (2-3 sentences)
  4. 4Show genuine interest in getting to know them
  5. 5Include a question to encourage a response
  6. 6Use proper spelling and grammar
  7. 7Be yourself - authenticity is attractive
  8. 8Send the message at an appropriate time

Message Examples

"Hey! I noticed you're into hiking too. What's your favorite trail around here? I just did the Sunset Ridge last weekend."

"Your profile made me laugh! I'm also terrible at cooking but great at ordering takeout. What's your go-to comfort food?"

"Love that you're into live music! Have you checked out the new venue downtown? I caught an amazing show there last week."

Pro Tips

  • Messages sent between 8-10pm get the highest response rates
  • Profiles with questions get 50% more responses
  • Humor works, but keep it light and respectful
  • Avoid copy-pasting the same message to everyone

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